When I Kissed Dating Goodbye....
- Joyful Julie
- Dec 26, 2017
- 3 min read
DATING!!!!!!!!!
Its been 6 years ago today that Alex picked me up for our first date. It was a dreamy Christ-filled evening out. On December 26, 2011 I saw and felt God the
entire time we were together. I was showered with gentleness, respect and two huge bouquets of flowers. When you feel the presence of God during your entire date-IT'S MAGICAL. I remember praying over our date as soon as I got in his truck (Yes, true story) and he wasn’t freaked out. I was an unashamed Christian woman who relentlessly pursued Jesus in my dating and personal life- so there was not any- separating them. Alex and I talked about every subject and quickly found out both of us didn’t "date" just to "date" but to be intentional for future courtship and marriage. Ya'll I seriously wish I could put into words how respectful and carefully romantic he was. When he dropped me back off at the church where my car was parked- we shared our testimonies until 2am. It was undeniably a GOD-THING!
I really love talking to others about Christian dating, courtship and marriage because-They are all beautiful seasons. Now, these seasons are not perfect but they each teach us lessons. I admit and most people know I had seriously HIGH STANDARDS when it came to dating…..but when you're loved by sweet King Jesus- you know your worth. I say all this because….SINGLES out there….it matters who you date. It matters why you're dating them. I am so thankful I allowed JESUS into every part of my dating life. I only dated 2 godly guys before God blessed me with my handsome Husband Alex- and every day I am grateful for what I learned in those relationships. They weren't perfect dating relationships but I can tell you-when Gods at the center there is less hurt and you don’t give pieces of yourself away that suppose to be for your future spouse. Alex and I both truly believe each person you date- helps you learn how not/how to love your future SPOUSE.
It's ok to be picky. Its perfectly fine to be single at any age. It's not ok to SETTLE. Society tells us one thing- but the only thing that matters is what Gods Word says. I promise you- if you relentlessly pursue JESUS with all you have, you will be blessed in every area of your life.
I am a Christian and this is from that perspective--- Don’t date just to "date"!
Eventually you want to marry a spouse who loves Jesus. Who loves God before they ever know you exist. A person who falls to their knees, with tears in their eyes and hands held high, without a care as to whose watching them. A person who knows God is the best foundation for a relationship. One that brings you closer to Christ not sin.
When all this happens……
That person who loves Jesus will respect you. They'll pursue you and treasure you. They wont pressure you or control you. They will worship God with you and pray alongside you. Best of all- They will remind you- only God can satisfy.
I love this quote from "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"
"Having a girlfriend was no longer my greatest need. Knowing and obeying Him was. I wanted to please Him in my relationships, even if that meant looking radical and foolish to other people- even if it meant kissing dating goodbye." -Joshua Harris
* I am in love with this song. I wrote to my future husband just like this. I honestly can say, this was the one of the best decisions I made during my season of waiting. I tried to write to him each week and knew one day I wanted to give the letters as a gift to my Husband on my wedding night. It was such a sweet season.
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